What is the best?

kid:       I want to play with friend

parent:  nope, you got to study 

kid:      I finish my school work

parent: nope, you have tons of extra studying work from me

kid:     wow (crying)

parent: (look at the kid with stern face)

kid:     (lower his head)

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We all want the best for our kids.

Is your belief of the best means the best for the kids?

Sometimes, I wonder...

Our wish

a CEO and a gold medal Olympic swimmer get together

CEO: I expect my kid to be the CEO when he grows up
Olympic swimmer: I expect my kid to be the next gold medal Olympian.

(they look at each other and smile)

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We all have high expectation for our kids.
That's understandable.

The truth of the matter is no matter what they do
I wish them to be happy and healthy.

May we all be happy
May we all be healthy
May we all be safe
May we all live with ease

Good friends

(Two good friends, Mary and Susan, sat at lunch)

Mary: oh, I admire you
Susan: mm, what do you mean

Mary: You have so many friends
Susan: oh (smiling)

Mary: How do you get so many friends
Susan: I was shy before

Mary: oh
Susan: I started by saying hi to people

Mary: oh
Susan: Then, I add one more sentence.
       Like your shirt looks really cool.

Mary: oh
Susan: (smiling)

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We all can do it.
We try the easiest way so we feel good.
We try a little of the hardest things so we feel good.
We make sure we feel good.

Homework

child: oh, dad, i have so much homework
dad:   oh, my dear

child: what should I do?
dad:   which homework is the easiest?

child: Of course, the easiest homework is English
dad:   well, let's start with that

child: (start doing English)

child: (happily)
          oh, dad.  piece of cake.
          I finish my English homework
          what should I do next?
dad:   which one is the easiest now?
child...

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A lot of times, we want to be perfect.
We want to complete our goal in a minute.
The thing is that we cannot control how long it takes but
we can control the direction that we are going.

Be gentle and kind

kid: uh, it's too hard
dad: what is too hard

kid: you know, computer
dad: just try it out

kid: i don't want to
dad: (smile)
        give a try, if it doesn't work out..
        it's ok
        find something else to try

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In our life, we want kids to be like us.
but it rarely happen that son has the same talent as kid.

be gentle to the kid..

Big tree

Big tree and small tree

Big tree: (looking down at small tree with loving face)
Small tree: (His branch touch Big tree)

(It is raining)
(Big tree protect the small tree)
(The small tree is happy)

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May you be happy
May you be safe
May you be at ease
May you be healthy

breath

You stop, you breath, and you still your mind.

- Thich Nhat Nanh

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Sometimes, mind goes every when when staying home.
It would be a good exercise.

May you be happy
May you be healthy
May you be safe
May you be at ease

May you be healthy

May you be happy
May you be healthy
May you be safe
May you live with ease

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A lot of times, I mumble thousands of times when I think of my dear family..
May we all have peace ..

stay home

(oh no, going to stay home for sometimes)

um.. i have things that I want to do before but didn't get the chance..
this is my chance..

yea, i jump for 100 times ..
yea, i can read 100 books now
yea...

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Sometimes, if you are willing to change, everything changes

May we be healthy and happy

David

smile

Two friends got together. 

Tom:     what happen
George: oh, watch too many news

Tom:     oh..
George: (face down)

Tom:     what is your favorite things to do
George: well, I like running but it's raining

Tom:     oh
Tom:     (thought for a while)

Tom:     what will make you smile
George: looking at my dear ones

Tom:     where is the pictures?
George: (finding the photo books)
              (his face begin to change from sadness to smiling)

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All of us believe in happiness and in love.
Always find the thing that you love and look at the picture one more time..

At peace with myself

A: but my dad wants me to be more socialize
B: why?

A: he wants me to improve..
B: why?
A: (silent)

B: do you feel it's necessary
A: not really

B: why are you doing?
A: to meet his expectation..

A: sigh...

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A lot of times, we'll want to meet our Apple's expectation..
yet, it's all unnecessary

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I am perfect exactly as I am.
Louise hay

I love myself perfect and imperfect.
David Shen

I am perfect the way I am.
Teddy Shen

thank you

Louise Hay:

I have a little routine I’ve done for years. The moment I wake up, I snuggle my body a little deeper into my bed and thank my bed for a really good night’s sleep. I do this for a few minutes as I start my day with positive thoughts.

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Thank you, Louise
I am really grateful for what the universe is given me.

Thank you

David

I am sorry

child:  (crying)

mom: why don't you work harder

child:  (wow.. ) (crying harder)
           mom, i want to impress you

           (wow..)
           (feel worthless)
           (wow..) crying

mom: without hard work.. you're nothing

child:  (wow..) crying 



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My dear, the truth is that I just want the best for you.
I sometimes worry because I couldn't see what's the future for you.
But I know..

All is well..
Everything is working out for your highest good.
Out of this situation only good will come
You are safe..

I love you
I am sorry
please forgive me
thank you

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Louise Hay affirmation:
I am willing to release the pattern in me that created these conditions.
I am in the process of positive changes.
I have a happy, slender body.
I experience love wherever I go.
I have the perfect living space.
I now create a wonderful new job.
I am now very well organized.
I appreciate all that I do.
I love and approve of myself.
I trust the process of life to bring me my highest good.
I deserve the best, and I accept it now.

Wonderful

I create a wonderful new belief for myself

- Louise Hay

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I love and accept myself exactly as I am
I am perfect
I am beautiful.  Everyone loves me
I am the best.

- David Shen

Learn to hug yourself, take a deep breath and say good things to yourself

Kid

dad: my dear, time to do homework
kid: no, no, i don't wanna

dad: why..
kid: (start crying)

dad: is the homework too hard?
kid: It's hard

dad: you just need to do more practice
kid: no... no...

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Sometimes, we as parents want the best for our kids.
We want them to succeed..

Do we push hard or do we take a deep breath and try to figure out next step?
That's the dilemma...

We probably first being kind to ourselves.  When we were young, what do we want to hear.
We probably also want to be kind for the kids.  Take a deep breath, what is the best way to do next?

Who is it

dad:         oh, what do you have in mind

son:          i don't know yet but I want to learn.
dad:          i probably is not the best person but mom is good with computer

daughter:  dad, dad.. come here
dad:          (curiously)
   
daughter:  dad, dad.. come
dad:          (still wanna to sit at the dinner table.. reluctanly got up)

dad:          dear, what do you want to show me
daughter:  I heard you and Tom talks about video game
                 so I want to show you how...

dad:          oh.. (smiling)
daughter:  well, here is the software
                 here, you can select which pokemon you wanna put in...
                 here, you can select the house and the castle..

dad:          wow...  (that's pretty cool)
                 you can make this a multi player vidoe game
daughter:  no dad, once I finish it..   I just wanna to be a single player and I can play it everyday.


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In this internet age, it's rare that you hear people want to create it for themselves only.
Yet...
I believe in creating something so that I can look at it everyday...

Walt Disney did it...
Steve Job did it...

All is well

I allow others to be themselves.

I do not try to heal my friends.
I do my own mental work and heal myself

This is the best thing I can do for others

- Louise Hay

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I love and accept myself as I am
I love and accept my family as they are

All is well

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I love and approve of myself
I love and approve of my family

All is well

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Who is the best
I am the best

Who is the best
My family is the best

All is well

Kind

Son:  Dad, I tried very hard to be positive but
Dad:  What happen

Son:  It's just I keep trying but
Dad:  what

Son:  Sometimes, i just couldn't
Dad:  (mm)

Dad:  (hug the son)
          It's ok.
          Just do your best.
          Remember nobody is perfect.
Son:  (looking at his dad)
          ok

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A lot of times, we try very hard to be positive but
sometimes it's not easy

Learn to be kind to yourself
Learn to be sympathetic with yourself.
Learn to give ourselves a hug

Take a deep breath and be your best friend

Teacher

(teacher and student's mom have a conversation)

Teacher:  He's a hyperactive child.
               He's easily distracted.
         
               Well, can you take him home.

Mom:      You're wrong.
                Each person has innate ability.
                Just because you don't see don't mean nothing to me....

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Thomas Edison stay in public school for 12 weeks.

A lot of times, we sees someone who is different from us and
we assume that this person has no future.

Yet, times and times again, these people change history.

Trying to see the strength in each person.

I am willing

I am willing to change and grow.

When I am ready to make positive changes in my life.
I attract whatever I need to help me.

- Louise Hay

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I am willing to change for my kids.
I am willing to change my attitude.
I am willing to change to love and accept myself
I am willing to change to love and approve myself
I am willing to change to see my potential.
I am willing to change to smile.
I am willing to change to breath.
I am willing to change to listen.
I am willing to change to dring more water.
I am willing to change to exercise more
I am willing to change to believe in me.
I am willing to change to take deep breath

- David Shen

This is the only way

Dad:  The way I learn Spanish is to write hundreds of times.
          I will eventually get it.
Son:   but dad... that is too much

Dad:  what? ... what're you talking about
          this is the best way .. the only way ..
Son:  (crying)
         (tears in his eyes)

Mom:  what happen..
Dad:    he doesn't follow my way

Mom:  My dear..
            The way he learn is by listening.
            He watches the TV and he learns Spanish right away.
   
Dad:     huh?

Mom:  (smile)
         
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We're all here for a reason.
We all have different way to learn new things.
We love accept our family member exactly as they are.

The right way

Dad:  son, the way I see life is like this.
          you ride a horse...

          while you're riding the horse, you see other horses.
          then, you find a better horse.

Son:   ? (huh?)

Dad:  Let's talk about career.
          You find a job that you don't really like.
          But as you meet people, you find the next job

Son:  ? (huh)

Son:  Dad, I don't like your way..
          I want to find a career that I enjoy and I'll stay there for a long time.
          I don't have your ability to change job as you go.

Dad:  huh?

Dad:  Listen to me, son..   That's how I make life work

Son:  uh... uh..
          I don't wanna do that way.
          I wanna do it my own way..

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We're all in this world for a reason.
We have different ability and sometimes we expect our kids to follow our way.
Yet, each person is different...

We probably need to give our kids some freedom to do it their way.
Don't be a square, be a circle..

Family

Enduring loving relationships brighten my life.
From time to time, I ask those I love How can I love you more.

- Louise Hay

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I think one of the way to show love is

spend time with love ones (family)
take myself to happy place (bookstore, park, movie theater, ...)
hug love ones (family)
buy flower for significant others
play video game or play chess or go to in and out with love one

- David Shen

Always love you

Dad:  I didn't intentionally hurt you.
          I was just being anxious.
Son:  (lower his head)

Dad:  I just feel anxious and suddenly I would like to start and finish right away
Son:  (tear in his eyes)

Dad:  I am sorry.
Son:  It's ok.  Dad

Dad:  I love you.
          I am sorry.
Son:  No matter what.  I always love you.

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Sometimes, if you are Dad and you are not able to say to your son to ask forgiveness.
Say you're sorry in your head...
(Something like)

I am sorry
Please forgive me
I love you
Thank you

Life

Louise Hay quote

I forgive everyone in my past for all perceived wrongs. I release them with love.
I am ready to be healed. I am willing to forgive. All is well.

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David Shen:

When you don't feel easy...

One of the thing that you can do is if it happens for your best friend, what would be your recommendation?

I would say
Take it easy
Need to do more mirror work.  It seems that outside is just a reflection of your inner self.

Say the following constantly:
I love you
I am sorry
please forgive me
thank you

I am grateful

Water is my favorite beverage.
I drink lots of water to cleanse my body and mind.

I am the only person who has control over my eating habits.
I can always resist something if I choose to.

Louise Hay

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Before I eat, I breath in and out three times.
Before I eat, I drink some water.

When I eat, I eat slowly so I can taste the food.
When I eat, I eat a bite and count to 30.
I am grateful for the food.
I am grateful for people who provide us the food.

Thank you
Thank you

David Shen

I am wonderful

I have unlimited potential
Loving myself and thinking joyful happy thought is the quickest way to create a wonderful life.

Louise Hay
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I am wonderful.  We are wonderful.
I am the best.  We are the best.
I smile all the time.   We smile all the time.

I love my smile.  We love our smiles.
I love my talent.  We love our talents.
I love jogging.

Thank you
Thank you

David Shen

Psychology

a student majoring in psychology
he went home and practice on his little sister

student: Hi sis
sis:        Hi Bro

student: How are you feeling today
sis:        why you ask

student: I wanna know how you feel
sis:        can't you tell

student: uh..
sis:        gee, what kind of psychologist are you

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a lot of times, we spend all the efforts trying to know what others are thinking.
yet, we sometimes forgot to take a breath and listen to ourselves

Bear and his cub

(The Bear and cub)

Dad: son, I sometimes are jumpy.  I am so sorry.
Son:  dad, it's ok.. I love you

Dad: (look at his child.. tears starts to swell)
         (Dad gives his son a hug)
         I always love you
Son:  (look at the far forest..)
         I always want to say "I love you"..

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A lot of times, it's good to express gratitude and love whenever you can.

Bear and Rabbit

Rabbit and Bear met

Rabbit: oh, Bear.. I am so busy
Bear:    why don't you take a breath

Rabbit: too many things to do..
Bear:    what's the hurry

Rabbit: to get ahead of others, of course
Bear:    love yourself and happy with yourself is the goal, isn't it

Rabbit: (look at bear with blank)

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Sometimes, we take a breath and love ourselves.

love and accept ourselves

(A teacher and two studenst got together)

Teacher:           oh, I have good news for you
Both students:  yea, what?

Teacher:            Both of you got terrific grade out of the test.
Both students:   really.. oh. wow..

Teacher: (to student A)
                          You got 95 out of 100 in non-verbal test.  You have high IQ with English, math ..

Teacher: (to student B)
                          You got 95 out of 100 in verbal test..   You have high IQ with people.

(both students sighs at the same time)
(They both looks down)

Teacher:             what happen.. Aren't you happy about your score....

Student A:          You mean I am smart but average with people
Student B:          You mean I am good with people but average when taking test..


Teacher:              You guys look at this thing all wrong. (smiling)

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Sometimes, we love and accept ourselves and be glad with our talents.
Looking at others.. we can be happy for them, too. :)