Want to be the best

Tom:        (crying)

Jennifer:  what's wrong

Tom:        I want to be the best.. but I wasn't

Jennifer:  best?

Tom:        You know.. I am a computer programmer.

                 I want to be the best but no matter how hard I try.. 

                 I don't seem to have the logic to be the top programmer

Jennifer:   take it easy

Tom:        (still crying)

Jennifer:   (look at tom, doesn't know what to say)

Jennifer:   (sigh, look at the sky)

                 (pause for a long time)

Jennifer:   We all can be the best.

                 Probably you are not made for being a computer programmer.

                 You are made for something else.

Tom:         (crying)

                 (looking down at the floor)

Jennifer:   Let's pray and hopefully he will show you the way

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We all want to show our best

We all want to do our best

We all try to do our best

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Tell yourself

I love you

I am sorry

Please forgive me

Thank you

No matter where you are, I am always here for you.

Have high standard

Tom:  (looking down.  A bit depressed)

Jennifer:  (looking at Tom) 

                Are you ok?

Tom:  I don't feel well

Jennifer:  What happen?

Tom:  My wife was helping my daughter last night.

Jennifer:   What happen?

Tom:  My wife was giving my daughter her recommendation on one home work assignment.

Jennifer:   Sounds good, what happen

Tom:  (look down)  I don't know... I was thinking another idea for my daughter and 

          I told my daughter that your mom's idea is ridiculous but my idea is the way to go.

Jennifer:   oh, no

Tom:  my wife wasn't happy.  actually she was mad.  

Jennifer:   If I were her, I'd be mad, too.

Tom:  I apologized to my wife and my wife accept the apology.

          But somehow, I still feel bad about my behavior.

Jennifer:   Calm down.  

Jennifer: (pause for a second)

Jennifer:   If I were you. I am going to tell myself that "I am willing to forgive"

Tom:  Ok.  I'll give it a try.  

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We have high standard for ourselves.
Sometimes, when we don't meet the standard, we feel bad.

I think the best way to tell yourself that you are not going to do it again and forgive yourself for what you did.

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I am willing to forgive.

I love you

I am sorry

Please forgive me

Thank you

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May you be happy

May you be healthy

May you live with ease

May you be safe

Who wants to be perfect

Tom: man, I just finished washing three loads of dishes.  I want to clean the whole dishes

Jennifer:  what's going on... you look tired

Tom: I want to be perfect but it seems that there's so much to do

Jennifer:  Relax.  Take a break.  Take a deep breath

Tom: gee.. I really want to make it perfect.

Jennifer:  You try your best.. That's all it need

Tom: Thank you... I try the best I can. I'll just do the best I can.  

         Thank you, Jenifer.. I think I'll take a brake.

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Sometimes, it's better to pat you on the back and tell yourself that you just do the best you can.

At this moment when you're tired, it's probably better to be in the being mode (pat yourself, enjoy a sip of tea, smell flower) than doing mode (works so hard to complete the task).  

what do you think?

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May you be happy

May you be healthy

May you live with ease

May you be safe

mindfulness (fair)

 Tom:  why isn't I get recognized by my work

            this is so unfair

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At this moment, be aware of your emotion

Tell yourself that you have strong emotion (feeling)

This is called mindfulness

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May you be happy

May you be healthy

May you live with peace

May you be safe